We begin to take full responsibility for our actions
Not only in my practice, self sacrificing love but also with friends and even with couples in public, a relationship phenomenon can be observed again and again: the perpetrator-victim constellation. Both partners feel like "victims". One because his partner has narcissistic traits, for example, the other because his counterpart is too clingy. In short, sacrificing love both see themselves as victims, looking to blame the partner or the “perpetrator”.
This perpetrator-victim constellation worked well for a very long time, but now it is shaking. Whether it's the current time, people's awareness, Corona or something else, we or I can only guess. But what I can say with great certainty is that this concept is being shaken vigorously and a new one is emerging. One in which we no longer see ourselves as victims, but as creators of our reality and thus our world. One where we take full responsibility for our lives - for better or for worse. This may sound very spiritual, but it isn't. This concept is much more down to earth and tangible than we think.
How self-love can also strengthen our relationships
Give up old thought patterns and heal emotional wounds through self-love
Let's stay with the relationship example. Each of us has the opportunity to end a partnership if it is no longer good for us. I'm not saying it's easy, but we can do it. The fact that we often find hundreds of reasons why it doesn't work is another matter. But if we break down all the aspects that we like to use as excuses, we will see that we have a choice. Of course, we may need outside support. However, the realization of this power and the ultimate decision must fall within.
The concept of one's own creativity can of course be extended to all areas of life. Take the subject of self-love. If I treat myself badly, this will also happen to me on the outside. People will come into my life who also treat me lovelessly. And now comes the crucial point. If I see myself again as a victim and you as a perpetrator, I stick to the old cycle. However, if I accept this clear message and see which beliefs, old thought patterns or emotional wounds are hidden behind my lack of self-love, I can uncover them and thereby heal them. It is also important to get more into our hearts. That doesn't mean we should put up with everything. But on the contrary. In terms of self-love, it is important to set clear boundaries. Not with the crowbar
Give up old thought patterns and heal emotional wounds through self-love
Let's stay with the relationship example. Each of us has the opportunity to end a partnership if it is no longer good for us. I'm not saying it's easy, but we can do it. The fact that we often find hundreds of reasons why it doesn't work is another matter. But if we break down all the aspects that we like to use as excuses, we will see that we have a choice. Of course, we may need outside support. However, the realization of this power and the ultimate decision must fall within.
The concept of one's own creativity can of course be extended to all areas of life. Take the subject of self-love. If I treat myself badly, this will also happen to me on the outside. People will come into my life who also treat me lovelessly. And now comes the crucial point. If I see myself again as a victim and you as a perpetrator, I stick to the old cycle. However, if I accept this clear message and see which beliefs, old thought patterns or emotional wounds are hidden behind my lack of self-love, I can uncover them and thereby heal them. It is also important to get more into our hearts. That doesn't mean we should put up with everything. But on the contrary. In terms of self-love, it is important to set clear boundaries. Not with the crowbar
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